Oana
Hey there, and welcome to episode 30 of the Feminine Uncut podcast. I’m Oana, your host, life coach, and founder of TheFeminine.com, a digital platform dedicated to women all over the world, a place where we champion a new paradigm of how to take care of yourself on a spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical level as a woman, and do it the feminine way. What is the feminine way? We’re defining, we’re expressing. We’re redefining that for ourselves and for our listeners. Today we talk about growth, abundance, and manifestation in the process of the feminine. Why is the feminine way? Well, stay close and you’ll find out before that. We really created a little project that got us very thrilled, and we want to share it with you. It’s a beautiful, free mini-course called Be Your Radiant Beauty. I think we need beauty in our lives, and I think women can channel that more than anybody. And I think it’s a gift for women and for men as well. So just hop on and check the link below in our comments and really do this little process, this catalyst, and activate your beautiful, shining self today, radiate as a beautiful woman in your life and with all around you and only growth, abundance, and manifestation can happen out of that.
Oana
So really enjoy that and take it on and share it with a friend, your sister, your mother, your daughter, anybody, any woman, actually. And it’s free. You can connect with it at thefeminine.com, and it’s there for you as a gift from us. So we’re going to really go deeper into growth, abundance, and manifestation in the feminine way. And I and Ioana have, in our secret circle in our membership club, recently finished the three months of Abundance Challenge. And we really worked with Abundance and Manifesting the Feminine Way for three months in a row and kind of guided women in our membership club through this process. And we learned a lot from it. We grew stronger in our confidence. I saw Joanne do this shift in her own confidence in the business and in her life throughout this process. You were more confident in an area where I wasn’t in our work together, and that was very new for you. So it was really interesting to see the growth that The Abundance Challenge brought to our work and us as a team. So it was really nice for me. It was really powerful because it brought me back into the game after maternity leave.
Oana
And I also grow more powerful in understanding that I have the capacity to manifest 100% of what I want. I knew I had the capacity to manifest, but now it’s like literally 100% everything I want happens. That’s cool.
Ioana
It’s empowering.
Oana
It’s empowering. Yeah. And it’s stress-free somehow. It’s easy because once you have that in your life, in your own self, somehow as a resource, you get detached and you get more creative. And we’re stepping into our creativity now. And we’re going to finally we’re going to explore creativity in the feminine way. So stay tuned because some of the next podcasts will be about creativity. I think everything is connected to creativity and creation. That’s a kind of realization that came through working with abundance and manifesting the family. So I’ll stop for now and allow Joanna to step in and share the whole process with us.
Ioana
I wanted to create a podcast dedicated to creativity, creating and manifesting an abundance of feminine ways, because we talked in the previous episode about healing the feminine way, which I think from my experience, is one of the strongest gifts that the family offers us. And the second one, which is kind of logical as a sequence, is manifesting. And I was already inspired by the challenge. It was actually a challenge, a three-month challenge you initiated in our sacred circle. It’s a group dedicated to women who accessed our programs, and I also think we should create a program inspired by the challenge, which was very organic as you created it. But now it has a structure. After the challenge ended and you work with the feminine energy, you guide everyone through the feminine energy using some specific steps. And that’s why I felt inspired to create a podcast inspired by that challenge, because I think the biggest difference it’s going to make in our lives is getting us from being stuck to being unstuck, because we say all the time I feel stuck in my personal life, in my professional life, in my social life, in all the life we have, we just feel stuck.
Ioana
And we don’t envision a way to get unstuck. And I think the feminine can be a huge asset. We can use it at first to shift the mindset from being stuck to being unstuck and then to actually bring to life the mindset we have. And just for starters, let’s explain what creation through the feminine means, in fact, and why through the feminine and also the masculine. If somebody else.
Oana
Oh, well, that’s just because we’re women and we’re doing that here at we’ve talked a lot about why, because it balances us, it gives us power, it matures our feminine self, and it allows us to be way short and guides for women and men alike and for society. And I think in this shift that society is making balancing masculine and feminine values. We need to be way short. We, women, need to be way short. One of the things that we developmentally gave access to and had access to working with manifestation and growth and abundance. The feminine way was stepping into the Queen energy and activating the Queen archetype in our life and mothering our own intentions like we were mothering children. It’s a very strong process.
Ioana
It sounds advanced.
Oana
It is advanced. It became advanced. We lost some of the participants in the circle up to a point because it was advanced. But I think this is coming back to the creator. It’s about what the Queen and the King’s energies masculine and feminine, are bringing into one’s life, which is ending the victim attitude and mindset and really honoring the Creator in you and our divine capacity to create. We can’t do that from our teenage or childhood self. We need to do that from the adult self because that won’t carry the day. Only the adult can really hold on to that level of power and self-authority. I think it is about power and self-authority. And stepping into self-authority really is a process of taking your power back from different authorities you’ve given your power to and really shifting that dynamic from outside to inside and cultivating your inner resources, understanding that you do have the power to create your own life regardless of the exterior circumstances. And you do have the power to nurture things that work for you and that are driving you to your future life, the life you want to live until it comes to fruition.
Oana
And just being focused on that and nurturing and cultivating that brings those things that you want to fruition.
Ioana
This is a process, but let’s start with the mindset. How can we change the mindset from being stuck to getting unstuck and then step into the process?
Oana
Well, I think it is about women understanding that we need to be more fluid and really see fluidity as part of our values and practices we engage with like really as a mindset. See where I’m rigid and look with curiosity at the beginning of a much more fluid way of thinking, perspective way of acting and really engage with that and see if it doesn’t really bring things much easier to fruition or if we don’t feel more relaxed while doing it, or if it’s not easier to obtain the things that we want to obtain or the quality of the interaction is better. So I think fluidity is an inner movement or an outer movement. Right. An outer action that can really support us in opening this process of growth and abundance. And why is fluidity important? Because if you activate the feminine energy and you cultivate this energy through practice, breathing, through ritual, then when it really fuels your inner resources, when it really nurtures you inside and you feel wrecked with feminine love, it will overwhelmingly express itself in the outside. Waves of energy will start emulating in every corner of your life energetically, not physically.
Oana
Yes. It’s that glow that once you connect with it and you nurture it, you heal that inner child who feels a victim, who feels lonely, unloved, angry, and unfairly treated. And if he or she experiences this encompassing, loving energy that the feminine is bringing, listening to the advice of the feminine guide and really correcting that inner attitude in our statement to end the cycle of victimhood, to end the cycle of misery and trauma. When that happens, the energy just emulates outside of you. So it will magnetically attract situations, people, and resources in your life mostly connected to what you hold in your heart that you want to manifest. It may not come immediately, those things you want, because you need to kind of address the dysfunctions that are happening around you, not just inside of you. So at some point, you’re hitting a breakdown before you’re hitting the abundance because you need to address what’s imbalanced outside of you and really correct that. And then after decluttering and detoxifying and really setting the record straight, you’re like in an empty space and you’re like, okay, who am I? What do I really want? What makes me happy?
Oana
And you have to really reconnect with who you are in your heart and what makes you happy. And it’s another layer of working with the inner child because sometimes the inner child doesn’t know how to be happy. So you have to teach him. These are just layers and structures of moving into your authority, moving into your Queen energy. And in all this time in your physical life, things are moving. And if you allow fluidity to be part of your life, you will go through this process without you having to understand the process or manage the process. And I say to women that the biggest challenge when working with feminine energy is how to contain all that abundance. Women come into my work and they’re like victims of different relationships with men or not having men in their life. And I say to them, men are not going to be an issue. After you get out of the workshop or you get out of working deeply with the method, how many men are at your door wanting to date you will be the problem. How does managing that level of abundance or managing that level of creativity?
Ioana
Managing those offers, can be summed up like this manifesting through the feminine is making the shift from doing something into being something. It’s like embodying what you want to create instead of just nitrogen it until you obtain it. And I am capable now to say it very clearly, but it took me three years to understand. So that’s why I felt the need to just sum up the distinction between doing something and just being something. And when I say being, it’s like really embarrassing and really believing. I remember when you were in the States and you brought me a gift, and the gift was a postcard with New York, and you just gave it to me and you said just now imagine you leave there. Why just do that? And two years after that, I understand what you said. You just have to believe and be there.
Oana
Yeah. We open our headquarters in New York.
Ioana
Yeah, exactly. But to come back to the challenge, you said, and I followed up the same amount of partners challenge until we get the Queen and the King archetype, which is the very advanced expression of creating the feminine. You guided us through three months each month. Embarrassing. I will be very brief. I won’t get through the whole process. The first month was the hardest month and creating through the heart. Then the second month was dedicated to the womb and the third month was dedicated to intuition. And I think if we connect these three elements, we have the scheme of how you can create through the family. Maybe it’s going to be useful if you explain why it works like this.
Oana
Well, because the womb, the heart, and the psychic are feminine power centers. So whenever we work with the feminine energy, our Chakra system, and our centers will open up this way, the womb center opens up to our emotions and our creation, and our sexuality. And the feminine energy is sexual energy. And we need that magnetic blueprint and texture of the feminine energy to attract. So everything we want, whether it’s spiritual growth or something particular or both connected to something particular through spiritual growth were working with the womb. And one of the things that were like every month, the process kind of guided us into decluttering. So the first stage was decluttering. Why? Because as women, we are receptors of everything that happens in our life and other people’s negative or psychic patterns and emotions, and inner experiences. So we are these receptive spaces where we are just like a vacuum cleaner, right? We’re just sucking everything in, balancing things for our environment, but getting very cluttered in the process because we don’t know that we’re doing that. We’re doing it out of our care for everything and everybody around us. So we constantly need to declutter and really clean ourselves, especially the womb and the heart, because of those two energy centers, our psychic center, so that the fresh can come in, the new can come in, and to be able to renew and regenerate and recreate.
Oana
So we’re decluttering. And we actually started with the warm, not with the heart, because we needed to declutter the warm energy, the warm area. And that’s just everything that is not aligned with the truth of what we feel and the truth of who we are and the truth of our past. And it doesn’t matter how connected you are with your feelings and your intuition and your instincts. Once you empower your womb to really guide you through it will declutter anyway. For you don’t have to understand. You don’t have to know the things that don’t work in your life. They will just dismantle themselves. And it’s a process of destruction that we shouldn’t be afraid of. Because you need to die the old self so that the new self can renew. We’re not letting go of ourselves or other people in our life. We’re just refreshing ourselves, refreshing our relationships. So it’s like really cleaning the emotions, the energies, the feelings, the patterns that we’ve sucked into our warmth, energy, warmth, area, and then that allows the energy of the womb to refresh itself and give us its power. The womb is the creator. It is the area in our life where energy is cultivated.
Oana
And it’s very strong. Whatever we cultivate, our warmth happens. And I think just taking care of our warm energy is very important.
Ioana
That’s why you say we manifest through warmth.
Oana
Yes. And when we arrive, our feminine energy into the heart, and we start engaging with our heart, the sacred heart, the energetic heart, the energetic Center Chakra of our subtle bodies. We are connecting with our soul and with our mission and who we truly are and what’s our authentic path, our unique path. So we’re bringing the power of the energy that we have cultivated in the world to our path, to our inner path. And sometimes that just throws us in a healing process because our inner girl is still afraid of stepping into her truth and uniqueness and power and has limiting beliefs or limiting emotions from her childhood interactions or adolescent interactions. And we need to heal those perceptions so that we can restate our path or connect with our path or have trust in our uniqueness and inner path. So we’re bringing that energy of creation into realigning with who we truly are and what makes us happy and what makes us aligned. And happiness comes as an experience when we are connected with our soul and the soul can be present in our physical reality in our physical life and guide the process. And once we connect with those two lessons, the wound, and the heart, then it’s very easy for the psychic realm, for our unconscious to feel refreshed and our intuition to really blossom.
Oana
Intuition is not just a hunch. It has information. It’s a hunch with data.
Ioana
Let’s put it that way.
Oana
So whenever we cultivate our connection with our woman, our heart in time, through practice and ritual, we learn to allow intuition to be present in our life as a guide, as a master, as a channel for information. It’s a very advanced and subtle process, but it works organically for us. We don’t have to overthink it.
Ioana
We just have to trust it.
Oana
Yeah. And honor it, knowing that our intuition, whenever is there telling us something, even if we don’t see it in reality right now, will happen. And yes, it’s a whole other ball game, game, and conversation to really understand the messages of our intuition correctly and not see them incorrectly, because most of the time we misinterpret. How do we misinterpret? Let me give you an example. I have a beautiful graduate with that I’m a long-term relationship that I’m cultivating and supporting and mentoring. And she’s really been struggling in her relationship with men and letting go of addiction and attachment to a particular man that layers and layers and years and years into it. It’s clear that they don’t have a future. They’ve broken up millions, trillions, and times, and she can’t really let go of him. Of him. Yeah. Physical. So her inner girl is totally attached to whatever dynamic they have going on. It’s very hard still for her to step into her motherhood, her own inner mother, and her own authority in relation to the little girl and correct this attachment for the little girl and really direct the little girl in a much healthier perspective.
Oana
It’s a growth process. But for her, it’s very slow. And she’s been really struggling with this addiction and attachment. It’s an addiction, actually. It’s not just an attachment. Right. And every time she goes into the sacred space of the heart and she connects with her womb because her inner girl is addictive and I won’t go into her trauma and everything. She has trauma. She’s addictive, let’s put it that way. That’s not relevant. She gets the message. She gets the right message, but she can’t really honor it. She can’t really listen to it. So because she can’t really step into letting go and really securing herself, she will misinterpret the message time and time and time again. Although every time she comes to me, we have the same conversation, which is, I’m going to hold space for you. I’m not even going to tell you the answer now. I’m going to hold space for you and you’re going to connect with your own answer and ReTrust you like reactivate again and again reaffirm that you have the answer. You know the answer. You can connect with the answer through orientation. And she does connect with the answer.
Oana
In my authority, in my mother energy, she goes back into her life. She does the same old shit again because she hasn’t really cultivated enough of the mother energy to secure her self-trust process. So her psyche is giving her the right answer. But her inner girl is stepping in and misinterpreting that answer the way the inner girl wants, which is always linked to maybe this time it will work with this guy. And he’s just a symbol. He’s not even there anymore. He’s not even in her life. He’s a symbol of her own addiction that she can’t let go of and her own lack of mothering. So it’s not about the man at all. It’s about her growing her own inner mother enough so that when the addiction of the inner girl kicks in, her mother will gently put up her hand only in her girl saying, my love, I know you feel this way. It’s great you’re feeling this way. We honor your feeling. However, this feeling is not accurate. This is not reality. You’re not seeing things right now. And you have to breathe and I’m going to hold your hand and hold you in my arms and we will breathe together until this cools off.
Oana
And you are reconnected to the truth, until you will learn to trust the truth again and obey the truth again, for your own healing, for your own health, for your own possibility of having love in your life.
Ioana
This takes me back to my probably very boring question. What can we do in our day-to-day life, the small things we can do to stay connected to the fact that as women and as men, we can create and manifest whatever we want?
Oana
Well, I think the first layer is just being grateful for the things you have, because gratitude and acknowledging you have and being grateful for what you have, recognizing what you already have, amplifying it, and creating vast, high-vibration energy. Yes. And it creates, like a big space in your life in which abundance can happen. So gratitude is the first step. And it also infuses your mind with something positive. And it emulates again and again in your mind until your mind shifts from negativity and lack, which is scarcity and brings only scarcity, to allowing something more, which in itself is a mindset that can invite abundance.
Ioana
So we can’t create and manifest from scarcity and envy. Let’s say we just need to raise our vibration and be grateful.
Oana
Yeah. As an exercise and as a mindset shift second is to tend to the inner girl through a simple ritual, just cultivate that love for her, that protectiveness of her, the right teachings that most people say, well, I know what to do, but it’s very hard for me to implement it, you know, I know I should have done that. That and that. But it’s very hard for me. Well, yes, it is very hard for you because you don’t practice in the meantime. Yeah. It’s very hard for you because once the crisis kicks in or the challenge kick in, or you really want to put yourself to work and take an abundance, you are unprecedented. Your little girl needs to understand a new way of thinking that will put you on the right path for you every day. She’s like a child. I look at my child and she’s teaching herself about the world, and she’s learning about the world. And I looked at an interaction between my father and her, teaching her how to get off the stairs. She was five months. She’s a very early learner. And one afternoon, my father exemplified and taught her and said to her 100 times, I think I’m not joking with beautiful patience and firmness and softness.
Oana
A hundred times he showed her how to get off the stairs 100 times. I was actually working in the studio, so I was listening to them. It was a long process, but she was right. It was the first time she would be able to understand stairs, walk through stairs, getting off stairs a hundred times. But go figure. After 100 times, with permanent patience and lovingness, she knew how to get off stairs and never, ever injured herself. This is what we need. Repetition and patience. So our inner girl, our inner boy needs that repetition. We want to correct something in terms of a wrong habit, you know, an unhealthy habit towards a healthy habit. We need repetition. Talking to our inner girl, telling her how even telling her the secret between looking in the mirror and affirming the things you want in your life is actually talking to your inner child, repeating to them what you want and what they want until they get it. You don’t have to look in the mirror. You just show up with your inner girl and tell her we need to integrate this mindset into our life. I am allowing myself to trust my intuition.
Oana
Let’s trust our intuition. Let’s trust our intuition. Intuition is good for us. And even going beyond affirmations, explaining to the little girl in you like initiating her in. Why is this important as a habit in our lives again and again and again? And when the challenge comes or the price comes or even a breakthrough comes, you will be ready because you’ve practiced it. And the third is really allowing yourself to ask for support and share your journey. One of the powerful things I’ve discovered about support and sharing is that, first of all, they come together and that’s why we have a sacred circle. Because women can really get that support in sacred listening and just hop onto our membership and sign up because it’s mighty. You have a sacred context, a sacred space where we can share everything that’s going on in your life without feeling judged, without being judged. And Moreover, gets support. And support happens on many levels. First of all, other women share, they go through the same battle, which makes you not the unique victim. Second of all women share their leadership and vision and what you want in their life, which is giving you energy.
Oana
They’re sending you a lot of energy in a moment when you don’t have energy. And that’s just like a huge benefit because they’re enveloping you in love.
Ioana
And what if we don’t have the exercise of sharing or we are shy or we think it’s too private to be shared or we don’t trust enough to share our feelings and thoughts?
Oana
That happens when you’re living outside of a sacred circle and you don’t feel the safety. Okay, that melts away in time when you’re actually feeling the safety and the love unspoken, cultivated, and fed in a sacred circle.
Ioana
You pointed out before that we speak a lot about topics like creation, abundance, and manifestation, but it’s all about the practice and it’s all about the repetition. And I don’t know, I feel keeping it short and actually closing it with practical exercise like take, I don’t know, one thing, one domain, one area of your life where you feel stuck, just put it on paper and just go through the steps you just told us, be gratitude, mother your inner child and sharing us for support because it’s not going to happen if we don’t take action.
Oana
Yeah. And the fourth thing you have to do, not that you have to do, but it will be really beneficial to do is to take some time, five minutes, ten minutes where you cultivate the feminine energy through a ritual. So you go into the space of your heart, join our sacred space, meditation. It’s free. You go into the streets of the heart and you cultivate some energy. You go into the Earth, you bring the energy up into your heart. You breathe with the Earth, you breathe with the trees, you breathe with your own body. You breathe with your heart or your womb. These are very simple practices that stir the energy inside. They’re flushing the energy, the feminine energy through your subtle bodies. And that’s just bringing the energy up.
Ioana
You’re saying that Rachel is the federal I’m in the way of following through, of staying into the process and committing to the process, which makes it also pleasurable because one reason we don’t stick to a process is that it becomes boring. Like me with my homework, for example. I never do it because it’s boring. I don’t know why I feel this, and maybe it’s because our listeners need that and want that. And if you want to give them some more clear instructions on small exercises that really can bring visible change in the way they can create and manifest abundance in their lives through the family.
Oana
Well, it’s just holding your very clear intention of what you want to manifest.
Ioana
If I write it down and put it on a board.
Oana
Yeah, write it down. Put it on a board or write it in a journal. But like with hearts and celebrations, the thing that you want every single day of your life to breathe with your heart and your warmth together. So you put your hands on the heart, on the wall and really sink into the breath. Just allow the mind to dissipate and sink into the breath. In breath out breath is simple and free as possible and just connect with your heart and your womb, asking your heart and warm to guide you into manifesting the thing you want and you visualize the thing that you want as specifically as possible and how it looks like on the court and how you’re feeling about it and what things are happening, what people are doing around you, everything as specific as possible. And you breathe every single minute for five minutes with your heart and your warm together, asking your heart and warm to guide and allow you to manifest that. And you do it until it happens because it’s going to happen. And also practice gratitude, practice feeding, loving your inner girl, and repeating to her that we want that we allow that in our life.
Oana
This is beautiful for us. We’re welcoming those emotions or welcoming that result. We’re happy we’re having this in our life. We’re allowing it to happen and really then focusing again on the thing that we want.
Ioana
Okay having this said, I think all I want to say now is like enjoy abundance.
Oana
Yes.
Ioana
I feel to say this. If you have questions or topics that you want us to address in this podcast, please put the question in the comments or write us athelpathfeminine.com or hop on the site and the feminine.com and leave us a comment I think we have to start engaging more and feel it now.
Oana
Happy abundance to everybody.
